Updated: Nov 24, 2020
When it comes to building confidence it's not a one stop shop. There are steps one can take on a daily bases to build up confidence in specific areas of their life. Note that because one is confident in one area of their life does not mean they are or will be confident in other areas. Becoming truly confident takes intentionally focus and work daily to over come the mind and the pressures of our surrounding environment.
1. Make Yourself a Priority
While prioritizing your own needs can be viewed as selfish. You can’t have a good sense of self-esteem if you don’t make your own needs a priority.
2. Stop Being a People Pleaser
“He who tries to please everybody pleases nobody.” ~ Aesop. The next step towards boosting your self-esteem, then, is forgetting what others want you to be and being your own authentic self.
3. Find Yourself
If you spend your life ignoring your own needs and pretending to be someone else in order to please others, you may not know what your authentic self actually is. This is your chance to figure that out! Turn your gaze inwards and analyze what really drives you and brings you joy.
4. Watch Your Self Talk
Part of developing a healthy self-esteem requires analyzing how you talk to yourself. Anytime something negative pops into your mind, counteract those thoughts by writing down something positive (i.e. a list of your positive attributes) until positive self-talk becomes a habit.
5. Don’t Beat Yourself up over Your Mistakes
Instead of dwelling on your mistakes as some sort of personal punishment, try to view these mistakes as opportunities to improve yourself.
6. Acknowledge Your Successes
Write your successes down and as time goes on you’ll be amazed at how much you have accomplished.
7. Be Grateful
When you focus on being grateful for the things that you do have, you start to feel happier with your life and more self-assured.
8. Nurture a Positive Attitude
Surrounding yourself with positive people can only help you improve yourself.
11. Be Generous to Others
For many people, helping others and volunteering gives them a sense of meaning and purpose in life.
12. Love Yourself
When you love yourself, you lead a healthier life. You take care of your body by exercising regularly, eating the right food, and you take care of your mind with positive talk and a healthy social life.
Even if you currently don’t have a high sense of self-esteem some of these twelve activities can help you become a confident person over time. It might not be easy at first due to ingrained habits, but if you consistently practice these actions daily they will start to become second nature and you will start to see an improvement in your self-esteem.